After days of "persistence", she finally dozed off before i could even finish 1 story book. As she grew older, I let her read story books on her own. Once in a while, she will read me a bedtime story, or we will read our story books together. The idea is make her less and less dependent on me. Soon, I don't read bedtime story to her but I will stay in bed with her until she dozed off.
Then, the hardest part comes... "how to detach myself totally".
One day, a friend shared with me her "successful plan"! It really works.
One night I told my girl this:
"Mummy is a bit busy in the kitchen preparing for the potluck lunch tomorrow. So, can u do me one little favour? U sleep now and I will visit you in 5 minutes time."
She bought my lie...
The next day, i told her:
"Wow! u did a great thing yesterday. So, lets do it again. U sleep now, I will be just outside and I will visit you in 5 minutes time."
Goodbye kiss, I off the light and went off. She did it again.
The next day, i told her the same thing. she was smarter then, she said to me :
"Mum, 5 minutes equals to 300 seconds and that is very long time. " Ha! Since when she can do 3 digits multiplication!!
So, we renegotiated our deal.
We agreed at 3 minutes per visit.
How it Works?
- Make a lie ... well, ask for a favour to sleep alone for one night.
- Visit at 5 minutes interval for the first 2 nights This will give him / her comfort that you keep to your promise.
- Praise him / her for being a good the next day.
- Be FIRM. At times when v tug them to bed, they will hold our hands, pull our skirts just to make us stay in bed with them. Don't ever get "cheated" by this.
Goodbye kiss, switch off the lights and just go!
It took just a few days, soon it becomes an achievement to your child that I beat mum by 5 minutes! Now, I am glad that Lv no longer needs my company going to bed. She sleeps on her own in her very own bed, in her very own room.
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